Crafting Splendor in the Queen City- A Conversation with Nilou Henderson.

By *Katherine S. Von Haden.

It was roughly 5:30 p.m. when the stars finally aligned between me and Nilou Henderson, the Charlotte-based entrepreneur mastermind. I caught her on the drive home, along with her fiery, fierce, and sweet 15-year-old daughter, Roya.

It must be said, anyone who has crossed paths with our beautiful, born-to-be-a-CEO matriarch would be as surprised as I was after reading the impressive display of altruism, ambition, and achievements—all accomplished at an unprecedented speed in her young life to date. Those are the first words that popped into my head when trying to express my gratitude for the privilege of speaking to this amazing mother, wife, friend, philanthropist, visionary, and trailblazer.

By the time we hung up the phone, I was smiling ear-to-ear and excited that I had just made a new friend.

How often is it that you empathically know, after just one fifteen-minute phone call, that the voice on the other end is unquestionably humble and genuinely endearing? I’ll go ahead and answer for the collective- it’s not that often. It was 100% clear that Nilou Henderson had an innate gift of making EVERYONE she meets feel at home.

It’s no wonder her newest venture, Stage of Designs, is taking the Queen City by storm.

Q&A

My daughters, Roya (15), Zara (8), and Yasi (2), along with my husband, Gerald, are the anchors of everything I do. Each of them pushes me to pursue my vision and values in a deeper way. Gerald’s own journey in the NBA taught me resilience and adaptability- two qualities that define my approach as a businessperson. My daughters remind me every day to strive for balance, to pursue dreams, and to create a legacy they will be proud of. It is their laughter, strength, and pure belief in me that inspire me to push boundaries.

My roles as a mother, wife, and entrepreneur interweave constantly, influencing my creativity in profound ways. Being in the business of designing spaces, I understand that each space is as unique as each family. I aim to create environments that reflect individuality because that’s what I want for my own family- a home where each person feels seen and valued. That philosophy translates directly into my design process, where I work to capture the essence of every client’s lifestyle.

My passion for architecture and design was sparked early, growing up in a family where craftsmanship and attention to detail were deeply valued. Watching spaces transform always captivated me. As an immigrant, I learned early on that a home isn’t just a building—it’s a place where memories are made, cultures are shared, and futures are built. This perspective instilled a love for creating spaces that truly feel like a sanctuary.

Real estate at Henderson Ventures laid a solid foundation for me. Understanding the intricacies of the luxury market, especially with our sports and entertainment clients, has shaped how I think about design and functionality. My clients needed more than a beautiful space—they needed a space that enhanced their lifestyle and met specific needs. That understanding led to the vision behind Stage of Designs, providing a truly comprehensive design solution.

Working with sports and entertainment families taught me the importance of balancing privacy with luxury and comfort. This unique perspective is central to Stage of Designs. We tailor our services to prioritize discretion and efficiency while still delivering on the highest level of style. Our clients trust us to create spaces that feel like an escape—a true retreat from the public eye.

Moving frequently during Gerald’s NBA career was challenging but gave me a unique insight into the emotional side of home design. A home is more than a place; it’s a foundation, especially when you’re always on the go. That experience allows me to empathize with my clients’ needs and design spaces that help them truly feel settled and at peace, no matter where they are.

I was inspired to launch Stage of Designs as a one-stop shop because I saw a gap in the market for a comprehensive luxury design service. Clients often felt overwhelmed with managing multiple vendors for design, staging, and construction. I wanted to simplify this process, ensuring they could come to us for everything and leave with a space that’s truly transformed.

At Stage of Designs, also known as SOD Interiors, we believe in listening deeply to our clients. Each project begins with a visioning process where we explore not only their aesthetic preferences but also how they want to feel in the space. We take that insight and translate it into impeccable design, delivering spaces that feel uniquely tailored to each client.

We strive to make every interaction luxurious, from the first consultation to the final reveal. It is about anticipating needs and exceeding expectations, so clients feel pampered every step of the way. Whether it is custom build or luxury staging, we manage each detail seamlessly so clients can focus on simply enjoying the experience.

Personalization is at the heart of everything we do. No two clients are the same, so no two spaces should look the same. We take time to understand their lifestyle, preferences, and dreams to craft a space that reflects who they are.

One project that stands out was a full redesign for a sports family seeking a home that felt private yet luxurious. We transformed the space with soundproofing elements, added subtle opulence in the finishes, and created an outdoor oasis that felt like a true escape. This project embodied the best of Stage of Designs, blending beauty, function, and privacy.

My real estate background informs our staging in a way that focuses on lifestyle appeal rather than just aesthetics. We stage homes with a keen eye for what buyers are seeking emotionally, creating spaces that invite them to imagine their lives within. It’s more about the lifestyle than simply dressing up a room.

Craftsmanship and attention to detail are central to our ethos S.O.D. We hold ourselves to the highest standards because we understand that luxury clients expect nothing less. These values are woven into our work culture, pushing our team to go above and beyond.

Ziba Luxury Salon & Spa reflects my commitment to creating spaces that feel elegant, welcoming, and pampering. The salon was an opportunity to expand my vision for luxury beyond the home and provide clients with an environment where they feel valued and rejuvenated.

Competing in Dancing with the Stars Charlotte is a passion project that connects me to causes I deeply care about, like breast cancer awareness and teen mental health. It’s a chance to raise awareness, support important initiatives, and inspire others to contribute to their communities. It aligns with my commitment to empowering women and promoting mental health.

As an Iranian American, my heritage brings a unique perspective and richness to my work. The colors, textures, and history of my culture influence my creativity, pushing me to create designs that are both elegant and meaningful. I believe in honoring where I come from while shaping spaces that feel both global and timeless.

I envision expanding Stage of Designs Interiors to include more custom luxury services, for example, venturing into unique architectural designs. We are exploring and preparing our very own luxury spec builds- and considering new opportunities that expand into new markets, while keeping our high-touch service at the core.

We are committed to evolving with the luxury design landscape by staying connected with trends, investing in technology, and, most importantly, listening to our clients’ evolving needs. Our goal is to not only dominate Charlotte but also become a sought-after name for luxury design on a broader scale.

As we close this glimpse into Nilou’s vibrant world of everything that defines luxury, taste, and style, it is clear that Charlotte will embrace Stage of Designs with the fervor of seeking a Hermès Birkin bag.

Behind every perfectly placed velvet cushion and meticulously selected marble countertop lies Nilou’s extraordinary vision, her passion for design, a genuine love for life- and her beautiful family. Her journey from the fast-paced world of real estate to crafting dream sanctuaries proves one undeniable truth: she delivers. Every. Single. Time.

Nilou’s story is one of grace and grit, where luxury meets soul. Her work is not about simply creating beautiful spaces; it is about crafting environments that resonate with meaning and emotion. Her journey encourages us all to chase our passions, aim higher, and laugh a little when the unexpected happens- because, let’s face it, when construction throws a curveball, a designer’s best accessory is a radiant smile- of which NO ONE can argue once you see hers.

So, here’s to the art of living boldly, the beauty of thoughtful design, and the belief that the most luxurious homes are made even better when filled with laughter, love, and intention. Because, in the end, true luxury isn’t just about living well—it’s about feeling well, dreaming big, and embracing every exquisite moment with style and a little humor.

If I had a glass of champagne in my hand, I would raise it to toast my new friend and say, “Stage of Designs, welcome to Charlotte. We are so glad you are here to stay. Cheers.”

leftovers.

It’s been a while since I have written (you know, life and all), and I promise I am not turning this into a recipe blog, but I do have one that I must share due to popular request.

If you’ve read this post, you’d know my feelings about Halloween. If not, don’t worry- you won’t miss anything. I digress. 

This year I had a bunch of leftover Halloween candy. Big bars. I pondered what to do with the leftovers (I was shocked to have leftovers, considering I let people take 2), so instinctually I thought of my colligate step son, Gunnar. I feel bad because the moment I text him about mailing it down to him- to which he replied “YES!”- I already had another idea for what I was going to do with it. Oops. Sorry, Gunnar. Next time. Maybe. 

Disclaimer: it doesn’t have to be “leftover” Halloween candy to make these. You can totally make them on purpose with purchased candy bars from the grocery store.  I’ll allow it.  

Katie’s Left-Over Halloween Candy Oatmeal Chocolate Chip Cookies 

Ingredients:  (caveat: I do NOT measure, all sizing is approximate)

Before we begin- preheat that oven to 375. If you have access to music or a Kitchen TV, please put on your favorite background noise. I believe I was watching Nurse Jackie at the time. It very well could have been Gossip Girl, but I’m pretty confident it was NJ. 

NOW, what you’ll need:

  • 3 cups of Oats (I mean really, start the day with Quaker)
  • 1 1/2 cups of Flour 
  • 2-3 tablespoons of vanilla extract. To me, you can NEVER have enough vanilla- as it cuts the “floury” flavor.  Also, if you click the link, there are apparently healthy benefits of it as well.
  • Brown & White Sugar (recipes will say 3/4 cup of each, but I do a cup of brown and 1/4 of raw sugar)
  • tsp of baking soda
  • 2 eggs (no link for this- mine came from my back yard chickens)
  • 1 cup to 1 1/2 cups of butter.  I discovered THIS BUTTER at Market Basket- and I will never use another.
  • Salt.  Most people will say 1/4 tsp, but I like the salt with the chocolate, so I add a little more. Perhaps you are on a diet without salt. No harm no foul. Simply omit this step.
  • 1/2 cup of mini chocolate chips
  • Extra Halloween Candy chopped.  For mine, I used Snickers, Reese’s Fast Break and Reese’s Outrageous Pieces. Don’t chop them tiny- I suggest once down the center and then in 1/4 inch cuts. I believe I used a bout 4 BIG bars in all.

I like to melt the butter, then blend the sugar until its smooth. Add vanilla and eggs. In a separate bowl- combine flour, salt and baking soda. Then add oats to the powder mix.  SLOWLY combine the powder to the sugar/butter/vanilla mix until all combined.  NOW add our chocolate chips, then finally the candy pieces. Should be a nice thick mix of wonderfulness at this point. If I missed anything, just add it. 

Put tsp or TBS spoon size portions on a baking sheet (cookie sheet silicone is a miracle)- about 2 inches apart.

Bake for 11-12 minutes. Cool on cookie rack. They WILL be mushy right out of the oven, so be delicate about getting them onto cooling rack. That will change to a chewy deliciousness you can hide in a cookie jar or do something a little more adventurous.

Enjoy.

these are not fat free.

 

not for the faint of heart.

This might be a long one, but if you are a 30-something woman reading this, bear with me because you just might relate.

Through the years, I have always tried to stay fit, but occasionally, I will spice up my routine with a new fitness craze. I’m not trying to channel Patrick Bateman or anything, I just get bored with my usual running/bike/elliptical routine. I’ve tried barre, spin, step, Tae Bo, plyometrics, YouTube videos for problem areas, weights, zumba, and yoga.

Well, today I tried something new: bikram yoga.

i mist say i was a little surprised with his choice of the tighy-whitey.
i mist say i was a little surprised with Patrick’s choice of the tighty-whitey brief.

Note, I commit to NEVER participating in the following trends: Cross Fit, Strip-aerobics, jazzercize, aerial yoga, ironmans, triathalon, tough mudder* (*this is an all-encompassing category that includes any kind of a multi-layered, elongated, and vigorous activity that is outside and/or contains pain or dirt), any kind of a class with boot camp in the title, base-jumping or anything off the physical ground), anything that involves sharks or cages, and dancing on tables in bars.

Please know I am fully aware this list will grow in time. I get irritated and kinda judgy more often that I would like to admit.

Barre was awesome in theory. Absolutely. Every article I had read basically told me I would look like a supermodel by the time I was done- the first class.

So, I went three times, until plantar fasciitis made its home within my foot. Clingy little fucker. Anyone who has had the privlidge of that ailment knows the pure delight it brings.

I’ll be a supermodel another time.

Spin I love. Truly do.

I began my love affair with spin in Chicago. It was the teacher, really. Then, I found a teacher here who used weights during, and was equally as fantastic and energetic as my Chicago Yoda- so I was hooked again.

Lately, I have not been because I’m just too damn tired to get up for the 7:30am Saturday class. I attempted to go this weekend, but having just got back from a trip- I opted for laundry instead and hit the gym around 11am.

Hi treadmill, I missed you.

Step Class was a college thing. I used to do the advertising for Campus Recreation, so I took the classes of my friends who were studying to become instructors. It was fun. I fell a lot.

Tae Bo I don’t even remember when I did this, I think also college. Double and triple time killed me. Where is Billy Blanks these days anyway?

Plyometrics was awesome until a friend of mine broke his foot mid-class during one of the jumps. Yep, next.

YouTube I still do sometimes. I’m most recently in some pain because of this inner thigh workout. I did it twice this last week. Try it, you’ll see what I’m talking about. Then try it two days in a row. Ouch. I will probably do it again this week once I stop limping.

Weights are an “every once in a while” thing. I know I should do them more, but I also know that when I do them too much my arms make some smaller men jealous. No, thank you. But yes, I can probably beat you in an arm wrestling match. Sorry, I’m German- it’s natural.

Zumba: I was laughing at my lanky body in the mirror the whole time. Seriously. I just kept laughing. There are mirrors everywhere! While I did find this fun as hell, I don’t think I would waste another hour of my life humiliating myself with just how white I really am.

Yoga was something I REALLY wanted to get good at. A lifetime of running without stretching has left my body a knotted mess of lactic acid. I have tried with individual instructors, small classes, beginner and advanced teachers- I just don’t think my body was meant to bend that way. I also got really creeped out when they touch your feet. I’m all set with their bendy ways. That is awesome that you can touch your toes- show off.

TODAY was going to be different. Today was the day I was going to do BIKRAM YOGA and be good at it! I would go to the whole 90 minute class, love the heat, sweat and feel amazing. I even convinced my friend Beth to go with me- which is a feat, getting her out of bed early, on her one day to sleep in.

Sure, she gave me a few caveats:

“Katie, it’s really hot.”

“Katie, it will smell.”

“Katie, when I pass out, you are carrying me.”

I lasted 34 minutes before starting to see stars and black out.

We left. Fuck you, Bikram Yoga.

Guess I better update my iPhone with some new songs cause tramps like us, baby, we were born to run. So true, Bruce, so true.

#2.

Derek Jeter: His existence has caused me a couple of frustrations in my lifetime and I should be angry at this guy, but I’m not. Why? I’ll explain it all.

1. For some reason, the University of South Carolina lured many people from the greater New Jersey/New York area.  Many of them were my friends, and all of those friends LOVED baseball.  Side note: I also loved and adored my southern friends, but they were more into Carolina football WHICH ANYONE WHO KNOWS ME KNOWS I APPRECIATE, so watching baseball was reserved for the “yankees” of the school. I digress. Now, there will always be the rivalry within with The Boston Red Sox and the New York Yankees.  This caused for some interesting interactions at Sharky’s (I tried to hyperlink this to the site, but as anyone who has worked, drank or driven by could assume- they don’t have a website). One particular evening, I was feeling saucy and decided to take the bet of “whoever loses has to take a shot of the winner’s choice.” Well, we all know what happened during that game in 1999 (ACLS series): Thanks for the shot of Everclear, Jete. Ouch.

A term and nickname created by Southerners and Confederate Civil War soldiers for a personwho is from the North (Midwest/Northeast). It was especially given to Union soldiers who fought in the American Civil War, usually havingto go into into The South in order to engage the enemy in combat. The Union forces invading Southern territory and also incidents where a few groups of soldiers pillaged and destroyedproperty and people’s lives resulted in making this nickname derogatory by some.
Ex. Northerners and Midwesterners get called “Yankees” a lot by many Southerners.

2. During the summer of 2005, my friend Mardi and I found ourselves in the VIP area of Whiskey Park (I guess it is closed down now). Well, us and the entire starting line-up of the Yankees. Don’t worry, A-Rod didn’t stay, as he was leaving as we walked in the establishment. However, we got to bond with some Yankees, as they drank and made strange conversation. Jeter sat with his K-Swiss sneakers and proceeded to try to hook-up with one of our friends, until he decided he didn’t want to talk to her anymore and my glasses were more amusing to him. Mardi and I had successfully avoided direct contact with any of them, aside from conversation, and merely accepted the free drinks (you know you would have too). He asked if he could try on my glasses. Mind you- the seeing kind, not sunglasses; I’m not that hip. I said no, to which everyone laughed. He had a HUGE head, and they were new, so I wasn’t about to have them ruined. “Like he can’t afford to replace them,” I believe came out of Posada’s mouth, to which I snapped back “LIKE I AM GOING TO SEE HIM AGAIN?!” I finally caved, he tried them on, stretched them- tried to fix them and “snap.” Thanks again, Jete. Those were Prada.

Frustrations and BAD relationship stories aside (Mariah Carey), I have a lot of admiration for the guy. He is an amazing athlete and has loyalty to his team- and seems to be a regular guy from my interactions. Okay, so there was this moment:

ahh, memories.
ahh, memories.

Lately, the news (and his PR team) have done an excellent job at showing the “real” him. I gotta say, I respect it.  In this world of beatings, natural disasters, crazy people with guns and knives, war, and beheadings; I am appreciative of positive/happy and uplifting news. ESPN did a piece on him here.  But the thing that you know warms my heart is the recent Gatorade ad. My eyes watered. I simply LOVE this commercial. Watch it with the volume on.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xfgS1lvqX8I

His last game of his career in Boston is this Sunday. Bittersweet. It won’t be the same watching the Boston/New York games without #2, although now some of our rookie pitchers will have a chance to get better, without being scared as hell to throw to him.

I wish you the best, Jeter, and if you happen to read this post- can I have the money for those glasses?  Thanks.

 

 

a moment of passion?

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Meet Buddy. Buddy is our 9 month old boxer. He wiggles his butt and cannot sleep past 5am. I lovingly call him “wigglebutt.”

I love him because he gives my 6 year old golden, Lucy (aka mister), a run for her money and has been the cause of her weight loss! He is snuggly and happy- and he poops in the middle of the street. It’s humbling watching my 6’5″ boyfriend pick it up (usually in a public area).

In this picture I was enjoying the sun and pool when he got me, smack-dab in the middle of my face. Enjoy.

today.

Hello there. It’s been a while since I posted, so I thought I would add some nice original content to spice up the organic SEO.

I’m feeling extra warm and fuzzy today, so I’m going to tell you why.

To start off my (this and every) day , I get woken up by wonderful man: (let me tell you, it’s not the worst thing to wake up to the man of your dreams)

brad.

He is usually leaving for work (after making me my daily salad) and I will continue to sleep for another hour. Today though, I decided to get up and run. It was nice, as the sun had not fully declared it’s HHH (hazy, hot and humid) status, and I needed some natural caffeine. As you may have read previously I cannot drink red bull anymore and I hate coffee. Besides, I love how peaceful Exeter is in the AM. I decided to take Lucy today as well. She was not pleased with the exercise, but at least she got to sniff around while I switched songs on my iPhone.

downtown exeter, nh and lucy at 7am

I have about a 30 minute drive to work, which is great. I can either sing to my random collection of CDs (yes, CDs…I’m that old school) or laugh at the Matty in the Morning radio show. I don’t know why I love that show so much, as most of the time “Matty” sounds like he is whining at whatever topic on hand, but I do laugh. Side note: I met Matty once at an event when I lived in Boston. He was the talk of the room, until Tom Brady walked in the door…sorry Matt. I actually remember his animated reaction of “WTF?” when eyes shifted to the door, away from him. I was going to put a picture side by side of each and ask if you could blame everyone, but I am guessing I don’t even need to do that to get my point across.

And then as I pull in to 121 River Front Drive, this is what greets me. It’s very friendly and bright, with beautiful landscaping and scented with the wild lilacs that grow out front. I mean- even the sky loves this building.

GY&K Creativity. Only smarter.
good morning, and in case I don’t see ya, good afternoon, good evening, and good night! -the truman show.

I have been in advertising since college. Anyone that knows me well knows it’s what I truly love it- and wouldn’t be happy doing anything else (well, besides a nice glamorous Broadway career). A TOTAL BONUS to GY&K, in particular, are my colleagues. They are all passionate and smart and fun. Fun. Now that is not a word most people would associate with work colleagues, but I am confident in this analysis. I am not going to go through all of them, but here are a few that make the day extra special.

Meagan. Meagan and I met on my first day, and we have been inseparable ever since. She get’s my personality (it’s so much better when I don’t have to explain every single thing I say), loves advertising and takes walks with me at lunchtime around the neighborhood. I’m a fan.

meagan. sarcastic. drives a jeep. has a dog. republican. catholic. nh native. think we have anything in common? love her.

After our lunchtime chat at the picnic table and post-lunch walk, we were greeted at the door with a chocolate cupcake from the world’s most wonderful interns. They have WAY better fashion sense than I ever have had- and I am confident I was not as mature as they are at 20. In fact, I was a moron at 20! Granted, I was doing internships myself at that age, but I still was rough around the edges (side note: yes, I realize I am still rough around the edges). I decided to make them do a silly pose for this blog, for the sole purpose to make myself feel like a mature 34 year old woman. Okay– I let them do a nice normal one too.

corinna and megan (aka “secret domestic goddess”). the future of advertising.

I am the Business Development Manager here at GY&K, and recently have been handling some account management for one of our clients. I love all of it. I would work in any department if they asked me to, seriously. It’s nice to know that my college education (Go Gamecocks! 48 days until football season!) and major didn’t go to waste completely. I am one of the few people I know who get to do what they sought out to do in the first place.

This week was my week to write the company’s blog post. If you’re curious, you can find it HERE. I had originally titled it #2012MarketingHoneyDoList, but the social media team deemed it would be too hard to explain what a “honey do list” was, if you were’t already privy to this obviously secret term. Thus, “#DigitalHousekeeping was born. Hope you like it.

This evening we have planned a picnic on the beach. Not a bad way to end a fabulous day, after all. I encourage you to try it.

can’t stop smiling.

I feel very lucky and blessed, each and every day. I wish the same for all of you!